Do I Fuck Him Or Not?

I'm gonna post this quick cause this connection is shaky as hell. I met a guy on Gay. com, and he's really nice, an English professor in Raleigh. We got to talking and he eventually asked me to have lunch with him so he could get to know me better. First off, the guy isn't single, he's been with his Asian partner for like six years, but their both involved in an open relationship, which tells me he's only using me for the ass, and then when he's through he'll leave me alone. But now, I'm not sure whether or not to do it. I'm supposed to meet this guy named Daniel tomorrow at Bennigans for lunch, and he wants to talk and all that, and then afterwards go back and have sex. Now in my mind I'm thinking of the pros and cons of the situation, as I so often do. The pros: A)the guy is older and so he'll have experience as to show me what to do and what not to do B)He's been with his partner for six years now, and he says he's HIV negative so that should be a sign he's alright C)It could just be plain old-fashioned fun. But always at the other side of my head, it's telling me that there are cons to the situation to. A)I've heard the shit hurts like a motherfucker, and if I don't know what I'm doing I could hurt myself B)Frankly, I don't know the guy and he's a perfect and total stranger. He could be a freak psycho who tries to kill me and all that. And on top of that, this isn't anything like what I thought about in my mind as my first time, and C)Above all else, this guy could be positive. With the open relationship that he has with his partner, it's not guarantee that he's been completely honest, and that's the side that I need to be worried about. Not to mention he could be completely ugly.

So right now, I'm shitting bricks as whether or not to think about what I'm gonna do. And in my mind it's telling me to enjoy the free lunch have a nice chat with the guy, and based off the way he looks and the kinda of man he presents himself to be, figure out what I wanna do. He already presented some of kind of iternary for what's going down. A little kissing, a little touching, some oral, and because he's top, finally some anal. He even agreed to let me do the foot thing if I wanted, which is a plus. But in truth, I'm just scared shitless about what to do. In my mind, I've always wanted to do this, but I didn't wanna do it at this minute. But I'm thinking that I'm growing older and I need to get a grip on the kind of lifestyle that I'm potentially choosing to be mine. At least if I let him fuck me, then I get to know what it feels like from one side of the line, which leaves the other side open, which isn't really that hard to do. Hint: Jay down in Orlando. But either way, I'm totally confused and I need a serious and unbiased opinion about what I should do. So I just called my sister Kimari, and I called my cousin Dale, cause I've got to get a second opinion on this shit. There's no way I'm about to do something this big without some kind of back up approval or disapproval. I'll let you know.